
INTRODUCTION
NAU John 13:34“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
In our last series of teachings on the essence of the new heart, we have learned that in order for us to love one another even as Jesus loved us that there can be absolutely no hierarchy of Christians in the NT. This is because a hierarchy of believers in the church can ultimately lead to a bunch of burned-out “holy guys” doing all the work of the ministry with everyone else, sitting on the sidelines as half-asleep, non-involved “pew-potatoes.” It is true that the NT does make a clear distinction between those who are gifted to be spiritual leaders and those who are not (cf. 1 Thess.5:12-13), but this distinction also assumes that all believers are priests that have the responsibility to grow in their faith and minister to each other by using their spiritual gifts to do good deeds for each other and to each other.
And so, since the NT teaches that the ministry of elders and deacons is to be viewed as merely one part of the ministry of all believers in the body (1 Cor. 12:21-24; Eph. 4:12), then it naturally follows that there can be no clergy/laity distinction in the body. All Christians use their spiritual gifts to minister to one another in differing ways (Eph. 4:12), all Christians are priests before God (1 Peter 2:5, 9), and Jesus said that the “authority” of those who are greatest in the Kingdom is to be like that of a slave and a child. Jesus Himself said so when He declared,
NAU Matthew 20:25-27 But Jesus called them to Himself and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great men exercise authority over them. 26 “It is not this way among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant (Gk. diakonos), 27 and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave (Gk. doulos); 28 just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”
NAU Matthew 23:8-12 “But do not be called Rabbi; for One is your Teacher, and you are all brothers. 9 “Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. 10 “Do not be called leaders; for One is your Leader, that is, Christ. 11 "But the greatest among you shall be your servant. 12 “Whoever exalts himself shall be humbled; and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted.”
NAU Mark 10:43 “But it is not this way among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant; 44 and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be slave of all.”
NAU Luke 22:26 “But it is not this way with you, but the one who is the greatest among you must become like the youngest, and the leader like the servant.”
And so, because the modern ministry of pastors and deacons has drifted so far from the simple and humble example set forth in the NT, ministry opportunities that would normally be available to anyone who is gifted for them are ruined by such top-down authority structures. These unbiblical authority structures carry with them the idea that only “qualified professionals” like pastors and other spiritual gurus are really qualified and able to do the work of the ministry. As I’ve said before, nothing could be further from the truth! Because body ministry is mutual ministry to one-another, we then focused on how Jesus said the world would know that we are His people,
NAU John 13:35 “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
The last time we came together, the practical implications of John 13:35 led us into the beginning of a discussion on the subject of the importance of “loving one another” as Jesus loved us, and how that works itself out in our local church practically (John 13:34-35). Jesus is speaking of body-love here, and we learn how to exercise this body love when we come together regularly to think carefully about how we can “ . . . stimulate one another to love and good deeds, 25 not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another . . .” (Heb. 10:24-25). Paul says that we are to “. . . admonish one another.” (Rom. 15:14), “comfort one another . . .” (1 Thess. 4:18) and “encourage one another and build up one another” and “always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people . . .” (1 Thess. 5:11-18). And so, we are to diligently seek the good of our fellow Christian, especially those in our body.
A harmonious church that exhibits body-love by doing the “one-anothers” of Scripture will also will be a light to the world, attracting unbelievers to the light of salvation through trust in Jesus (John 12:32). Jesus indicated that the unbelieving world would be able to recognize Christians out of all the other people in the world by their love for each another. From the perceptions that unbelievers have of the church, it is pretty clear that they don’t see this kind of love amongst professing Christians nor are they themselves experiencing a winsome and attractive neighborly love from professing Christians. My friends, if we can’t fulfill the new commandment of John 13:34-35, we have no business calling ourselves Christians. And so, I want to continue our discussion of what the Bible says about how we are to practically work out this special type of deep, intimate love in our body and so that the world will know that we are Christians by our love.
TEACHING/APPLICATION
“Be Devoted to One Another in Brotherly Love, Outdo One Another in Showing Honor” (Rom. 12:10 – literal translation)
One of the most amazing goals of Christ’s work is set forth in 2 Corinthians 5:15, “and He died for all, so that they who live might no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.” One of the unending lessons of discipleship is to take up our cross daily and follow Christ, to deny ourselves consciously by the Spirit’s power. This happens when we stop living for ourselves and serve Him and His people. In terms of our life in the body of Christ, one of the key ways we demonstrate a selfless life is to put others’ needs ahead of our own. Think about it. If each believer was preferring others ahead of himself, everybody’s needs would be met. There would be no need for welfare or government aid because we would all be looking out for each other. No one would be forgotten. It sounds so simple, but we all know that body life does not work out that smoothly because each of us sinfully desires to put ourselves and our selfish wants ahead of others.
In terms of our life together as believers, and in light of our responsibility to work things out in the body, one of the central ways we avoid self-centered living is by listening carefully to the concerns and burdens of others. James 1:19 says, “This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger” Some commentators see in James’ remark a corrective to what was occurring in early Christian church meetings. Curtis Vaughn and Earl Kelly note, “There may be an allusion [in James 1:19] to the free and unstructured worship of the early Christian assemblies.” Further, “It is possible that contentious Christian babes were taking advantage of the informal style of worship in the early Christian church to produce wrangling.”
The point is that in our dealings with one another each of us must first of all “be quick to hear.” Obviously, in any group of Christians there will be those will want to talk a lot, those who are very reluctant to do so, and others in-between. Those who have the gift of gab should take to heart James’ admonition, “be slow to speak.” They should prefer others ahead of themselves, and be sure that they do not stifle the input of others, either by dominating the discussion, or by coming across in such a dogmatic tone that no one feels up to contributing their thoughts. The verbally timid should be encouraged to share their insights by the rest of the group, realizing that each one of us has the potential of adding edifying content to the church meeting or in private fellowship (1 Cor. 14:26). As William Barclay observes about the meeting described in 1 Corinthians 14, “The really notable thing about an early Church service must have been that almost everyone came feeling that he had both the privilege and obligation of contributing something to it . . . . Obviously this had its dangers for it is clear that in Corinth there were those who were too fond of the sound of their own voices.”
In light of the exhortation for each of us to be “quick to hear,” I am listing some vital attitudes that we must cultivate in our body relationships:
1. We must be open to learning from each other. Many Christians, especially mature Christians and even seasoned pastors, rule out the possibility being able to learn anything meaningful from anyone in their body other than another seasoned pastor or theologian.
NAU Proverbs 1:5 A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel,
NAU Proverbs 9:9 Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser, Teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning.
2. We must be open to learn from Christians in various traditions. We all tend to stick to a denominational party-line and turn our heads away from information outside of our comfort zone. A.N. Groves wrote in 1833 concerning his relationship with J.N. Darby, “I do not think we ought to propose to be modeled unlike every sect, but simply to be like Christ; let us neither seek nor fear a name. I wish rather to have from every sect what every sect may have from Christ.” Are we willing to “listen” to multiple sources and discern from them what might help us discover the mind of Christ? Are we really open to be challenged by others to search the Scriptures and see what is indeed so? Thomas Dubay notes in this regard: “Since no one of us mortals, affected as we are with original sin, is perfectly pure in his desire for truth, no one of us is exempt from some degree of close-mindedness. It is only our God who is truth than can cure our reluctance to embrace all of his truth, however he speaks it.”
3. “We need to be humble,” says Dubay, “small in our own estimation. Finding the solution to a mathematical problem is possible without humility, but finding God’s will is impossible without this virtue. James 4:6 tells us that God resists the proud but gives grace (and light) to the humble”. Whenever a group of believers bathed in humility gather together, great things can be expected; but, as James 3:16 notes, where “jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing.” The truly humble believer puts others ahead of themselves, and they can do this when they carefully listen and pay attention to what they hear from others.
4. We must always have a willingness to be changed by what is going to be said. One listens wholly only if he is willing to modify his present position if the Biblical evidence warrants it. People who are set in their thoughts and determined not to change their behavior do not listen to contrary evidences (Dubay, p. 11). If we admit that we don’t know anything like we should, then we will be open to new light from our fellow Christian. We must listen to possible new evidence that has escaped our attention. As I’ve said earlier, the church must always be open-minded toward God’s truth as objectively laid down in the Scriptures, no matter who is delivering that truth!
5. We must “grow in awareness that the person speaking is important, even a precious one of “God’s beloved” (Rom. 1:7). We pay attention to important people. To the proud person other people aren’t important and so he is not inclined to take them seriously nor listen to them. Even more, we value the opinions of those we love. If you don’t really care what your brother in Christ thinks, do you really love your brother? (1 John 2:9, 11; 3:15; 4:20) I have seen so many situations in churches, on the internet, and in e-mails where those who articulate things with razor-sharp logic bulldoze over the little person, and pooh-pooh any concerns they have. You may think that a question or concern coming from another is immature, or ill-timed, or very low on your list of priorities, but if you really love that person you must give your ears and heart to that fellow-believer who is precious to Christ. That takes work and patience. We must highly esteem the input of every part of the body, or we run the risk of missing the voice of Jesus speaking through them in our midst. In Christ’s body we are instructed to heap more honor on those parts that seem to be weaker and less honorable (1 Cor. 12:21-24).
A huge chunk of not living for ourselves, but for Jesus, is displayed in how we defer to one another in the body of Christ. Without apology I say that to the degree a committed body of believers by God’s grace follows the perspectives set forth in this teaching, they will fare well and be able to tackle the inevitable bumps that come in the course of church life. If these perspectives are forgotten, neglected, or rejected, then a body will more than likely eventually self-destruct or resort to programs to keep the shell of the church alive long after the Spirit-filled organism of the church has died. This is the sad state of most churches today. Functioning together in the ekklesia is like holding a bird in your hand. If you hold it too tightly you will kill it. If you hold it too loosely it will fly away. If believers are fueled by the love Christ had for them on the cross – “as I have loved you” – then they can successfully keep the bird alive by loving one another fervently. After considering what has been said about body life, you may be thinking: “There is just one thing wrong with the biblical view of the church which we have been sketching: it does not seem to exist. The definition is fine, but the phenomenon it describes is missing.” I think those of you who have had anything to do with Shepherd’s Fellowship for any length of time know that that simply isn’t true.
CONCLUSION
It is true that Shepherd’s Fellowship strives to do the work of Jesus by “one-anothering.” But the truth that these attitudes and perspectives are the obvious will of Christ by the Spirit will give us great confidence that they can become an even greater reality in our assembly through loving each other, patiently listening to each other’s concerns, and a determined willingness to work out our differences so as to push for the unity of the saints in the bond of peace, for the glory of God (Eph. 4:15; 1 Cor. 10:31).
“Lord Jesus, please enable us to give ourselves to the life of love you have revealed in your Word. Drive us to our knees in repentance when we have failed to show love for our fellow Christian. Convict us quickly when we do not listen carefully to our fellow Christian and are rude, arrogant, and interruptive. May we show forth your grace in our speech, behavior, and love for each other. In Your name we pray, Amen.”
William Barclay, The Letters to the Corinthians, (Westminster Press), 149-150.
Roy Coad, A History of the Brethren Movement, 114-115.